Why is this happening to me


Do you ever get a strong, sudden urge to urinate and don’t get to the toilet on time?  Do you often feel this intense urge at strange times such as unlocking your front door? Or is it triggered when you hear running water? And do you catch yourself often asking, “why is this happening to me?” as leakage seeps down your leg yet another time, despite your efforts to control it?

If you said “yes” to any of the above, then you have experienced urge urinary incontinence.  But you are not alone. According to statistics, an estimated 12.2 million adults experience urge incontinence and one in five adults over the age of 40 have recurring urgency and frequency.

Urge incontinence, also called overactive bladder (OAB), is believed to be caused by any of the following:

  • damage to the nerves of the bladder
  • muscle damage
  • injury to other areas of the nervous system
  • aging
  • medications
  • infections or bladder stones

 Certain neurologic conditions including Parkinson’s disease, Multiple Sclerosis and stroke (CVA), as well as diabetes, can also be a root cause of OAB.

In the case of urge urinary incontinence, a sudden involuntary contraction of the bladder’s muscle wall occurs. This causes an unstoppable urge to urinate. Once this urge comes on, there is a very short time before the urine is released. If not at a toilet, one is sure to have an undesired leak.

The person experiencing overactive bladder is often very anxious about it and despite trying hard not to let the leakage happen, they are unsuccessful regardless of what they do. This leaves him or her feeling frustrated and wondering, “why is this happening to me?” It also leads to a lot of time and energy focusing on the problem as well as, often times, a large monthly expense paying for expensive pads.  Not to mention, the strain leaking takes on relationships and self-confidence as one worries about planning activities around bathroom location and personal hygiene.

Urge incontinence is the second most common form of urinary incontinence, behind stress incontinence (SUI). Many people with the problem attempt to manage it by urinating frequently, however this constant need to have a bathroom available is restrictive and leads them to feeling like their toileting needs “own” them.

Fortunately, one does not have to keep saying, “why is this happening to me?” every time urge incontinence occurs. Contacting your physician and seeing a pelvic floor physical therapist are the first steps to a positive change in your life, and your bladder’s. Together you can explore the following treatments for urge urinary incontinence/overactive bladder (OAB), and tailor a plan appropriate for you:

  • pelvic muscle exercises
  • medication
  • electrical stimulation
  • bladder training
  • biofeedback
  • nerve stimulation therapy

Get your life back and quit spending so much time in and thinking about the bathroom while wondering, “why is this happening to me?” Instead, work with an expert in the field of urinary incontinence to manage and overcome urge incontinence.

Questions? Give me a call 816-607-3747 or message me. I’m always happy to chat.

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